Loving your children: Growing up in a loving and unloving family

We have long known that in early childhood development each child develops unique emotional patterns. Some children, for example, develop a pattern low self-esteem whereas others have a healthy self-esteem. Some develop emotional of insecurity whereas others grow up feeling loved, wanted, and appreciated, yet others grow up feeling unloved, unwanted, and unappreciated. The children who feel loved by their parents and peers will develop a primary emotional love language based on their unique psychological makeup and the way their parents and other significant persons expressed love to them. They will speak and understand on primary love language. They may later learn a secondary language love language, but they will always feel more comfortable with their primary language. Children who do not feel loved by their parents and peers will also develop a primary love language. However, it will be somewhat distorted in much the same way as som children may learn poor grammar and have an underdeveloped vocabulary. That poor programming does not mean they cannot become good communicators. But it does mean they will have to work at it more diligently than those who had a more positive model. Likewise, children who grow up with an underdeveloped sense of emotional love can also come to feel loved and to communicate love, but they will have to work at it more diligently than those who grew up in a healthy, loving atmosphere. This also goes with husbands and wives. Come back later for more information: